Lately, I am concerned because our society doesn't let us express negative emotions. Two days ago, I was told I am not very good with pain. And it left me thinking "Who are these people who ARE good with pain?" And isn't there something WRONG if you are "good" with it? Pain is pain---it is bad. I mean, why do we teach kids not to cry and why do people feel like they have to be calm and not say anything when they are in pain??? If I'm in pain, I think I should feel free to say this hurts, and it sucks. Help me.
A friend of mine wants to become pregnant and isn't. It has been over a year and she is getting a bit upset at this point. But, people are telling her not to get upset...to just calm down. Are we serious about this? If you are wanting to become pregnant and you are not, it seems natural to become a bit upset. If you didn't care, what kind of mom or wife would you be? I mean, are people allowed to ever care about anything? If a person were to just be like "oh well, so I'm not pregnant...anyone for Monopoly?" then something seems WRONG with THAT...not the person who gets a bit upset because they aren't.
Why don't we let our kids cry when their feelings are hurt or when they fall down? I feel better after a good cry myself. Why do we say "shhh, shhh, shhh?" That drives me nuts. I think Hootie and the Blowfish had a good idea when they said just "Let Her Cry." Let's teach our kids to get it out. Let's let them hurt and grieve for a time, and let's be there to teach and help them through it instead of telling them it's not all right to be sad.
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Amen, sister. Your friend is in my prayers.
I wonder how to raise my son in a world like the one we are in where we see crying for men as a weakness. I can't tell you how often I look around at people as silently shout "WHO could not be crying right now?!"
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